Double Standards Amaze me. Especially when people treat you totally different from a friend who is looks drastically different. As much confidence as I have in myself I still notice way more then I should. I’m so tired of being judged because I’m a bigger woman. My friends tell me that I’m ‘not that big’ which is fine with me. It just upsets me when people are openly treating me and my friend (whoever I’m with at the time) totally different because they like to judge a book by its cover.
I’m done ranting. I can honestly say that I now know what some bigger people mean when they say they are treated differently. It didn’t hit me until yesterday while having a conversation with my Bestie over Dinner. She had no clue, and it wasn’t her fault. I hate to say that I would love to walk out the door with a smaller friend and just not be judged…to be respected right then and there, and ever when I’m not there.




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March 9, 2010 at 7:48 pm
shantijanae
Hey girlie…its been a min since i dropped by…I haven’t had much time to blog…where does time go anyway?
Nevertheless my comment…I always have this issue as well. Its almost as if you are overlooked when you have a smaller friend on your side. It seems I never have issues getting attention when alone or with friends of about the same size. I have even experienced this with a gay friend once when we were mistaken as a couple. Lets just say I was Shanti, and not the blogging Shanti that people have been seeing lately! LOL! I just laugh, its funny to me!! I still have a great time, enjoy the girls, a glass of Moscato(wink wink), and keep being my diva-self. I let people deal with their own issues on their own time. Its not me…or you…its obvisiously those who hold that double standard!
Words frm a vixen not worried bout the next!!
March 9, 2010 at 7:52 pm
ChellBellz
Thanks for stopping by! I try not to worry about it, but it sucks when you are a good person, and you know you get overlooked. I don’t bother anymore…my only love right now is schoolbooks hahaha.